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Texas Judge Abuse Video Reaction
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The Texas Judge | Did he go too Far?

November 3, 2011

Last night, my local news teased their 11:00pm broadcast with a video of a man whipping his child with belt while the reporter asked “did he go too far?”

When I was an early teenager, I lived in a house where abuse like this took place behind closed bedroom doors. Cries to stop, yelling, screaming, and the hitting of hands on flesh feel now like they were normal occurrences. Thankfully, I was never the target. Though, when I saw that teaser video last night, I felt a fire and a fear rise up in my chest that brought me back to those late afternoon bouts. I would sit in the family room, watching the television and ignore what was happening in the bedroom down the hall.

The woman delivering the blows was my former step-mother (she and my dad divorced nearly twenty years ago) and the subject was her son. Now, her son was no angel but did he deserve a beat down from his mother? And what kind of parent purposely lays hands on their child in an effort to inflict pain?

I’ve been watching Oprah’s Life Class on OWN and a recent class was about acknowledging a person or making them feel like they matter. In this episode, Toni Morrison, asked “when a kid walks into a room, does your face light up?” Think about that for a second. When your child comes into your space do you validate their presence? Do you make them feel like they are your greatest gift? Or are their needs and wants – or simply their presence – disregarded because work or *ahem* Twitter takes precedence?

We all want to feel like we matter. It feels good to be acknowledged – even if it’s just eye contact or a smile. Hell, there are probably volumes of psychological studies on the significance of acknowledgement and how it can benefit or handicap a person. Oprah said “the worst thing you can do to a person is make them feel invisible.” It amazes me to think about how the small act of “lighting up” can lift a child.

Now think about the significance of beating the crap out of your kid.

So, yeah…that man went too far.

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Kathleen November 3, 2011 at 11:10 am

Urrgg I watched this last night at soccer practice and cringed. It came back to haunt me at 2am. He went way tooo far and needs help. The entire family does.

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Wendy November 3, 2011 at 1:32 pm

Agree! I read some quotes from his ex-wife too. It’s a sad situation all around.

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Heather November 3, 2011 at 2:52 pm

He definitely went too far. There is no excuse for “punishment” to be taken that far. And there is NO excuse for beating a child. I absolutely love that question posed by Toni Morrison “when a kid walks into a room, does your face light up?” Makes us stop and think about our priorities.

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Wendy November 3, 2011 at 9:38 pm

Doesn’t it, Heather?
In regards to said “punishment” – I was listening to talk radio this afternoon and they were discussing this news story and replayed the audio of the beating. I listened far more than I had earlier this morning and I was just completely sickened.
I just simply do not understand some people and their behaviors. I do not understand how the mother contributed and/or stood by and allowed it to happen. Furthermore, I learned today that the young girl has Cerebral Palsy. CP! This man is beating a child and a child with special needs.
It infuriates me.

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Elly November 3, 2011 at 5:28 pm

It makes me sad, truly sad that it is even a QUESTION that could be asked…

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Wendy November 3, 2011 at 9:40 pm

I understand there is some controversy over whether or not he was in the wrong in the eyes of the law too. Argh, disgusting.

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Lizz November 3, 2011 at 5:30 pm

I hadn’t heard much about this until it came down my feed today… I watched the video and immediately regretted it. I understand that some parents feel corporal punishment works for them. I’m not one of them, but if that’s what they choose, so be it.
That wasn’t a punishment. That was a pissed off, out of control adult beating the living crap out of a CHILD. End of story.

I *love* that Toni Morrison thought! Because I KNOW my heart lights up, but I’m also pretty sure my face doesn’t always show it. I should try harder. <3

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Wendy November 3, 2011 at 9:41 pm

You totally hit it on the head!!

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Sara @ Periwinkle Papillon November 6, 2011 at 7:19 pm

A great reminder that nothing should take ‘precedence’ over our kids.
I need to try harder too. I will.
thanks Wendy!

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