A few weeks ago I watched an interview with Alexis Stewart and Jennifer Koppelman Hutt from the Today Show. It aired back in October but I had only recently read that their friendship is kaput. These two used to do a radio show together on Sirius and a couple of TV shows – one which was HILARIOUS called “Whatever, Martha” where they would just rip into old Martha Stewart Living segments. Anyway, I don’t know exactly what compelled me to Google the Today Show clip other than that I heard the interview was super icy. And it was – especially when the interviewer asked why the two weren’t friends anymore. Alexis mentioned things like “clinginess” and “revenge” while Jennifer played nice saying that friendships “like marriages end.”
I started thinking about my own friendships – both past and present – and wondered why some were successful and why some were not. Had the unsuccessful ones simply run their course?
I believe that friendships end for a reason. Explaining those reasons is the difficult part and that’s when we start saying things like “irreconcilable differences” or “amicably ended” (wow, it does sound like a divorce).
I’ll be honest with you, I have a very difficult time managing my friendships. Growing up I did best with the one-to-one friendships. I’ve always thought of myself as a very good BFF. In the last several years though, I’ve tried to widen my circle of friends. And while I’d love for these circles to overlap, they don’t. And that’s ok. But, I find myself neglecting certain circles for other ones and over time that becomes problematic. Weeks turn into months and summer has passed and I realize that I haven’t seen or talked to friends I once hung with daily.
Have those friendships run their course? I hope not. In a perfect world, we’d pick up where we left off. And some of my friendships are like that and I love it. And some are not and sadly those are the ones that may be deemed unsuccessful.
Do you think friendships end for a reason? Do you have friendships failures like Jennifer and Alexis or do you have a group of gal pals like the girls in Sex and the City?