As I sit here on the eve of my 37th birthday (I’m writing this Sunday night but you are probably reading this on Monday and yes, it’s my birthday – all wishes are welcomed!) and I’m thinking about my life. It’s probably the first time I’ve ever looked ahead and not behind. What concerns me are the fuzzy and undefined images I see when I close my eyes and try to imagine what lay before me.
I’m not talking about goals but instead about dreams. Wild, extraordinary adventures. I started a “life list” or “bucket list” sometime last year. I’ll be honest, the idea of creating lists like that make me very uneasy. It was a heavy chore and I held off for a long time. But why? We only have one life, right? And who knows how long it’s going to be. So I best be getting to this list because if I know anything for sure it’s this: “Once a task is once begun, never leave it until it’s done. Be the labor great or small, do it well or not at all.”
1. Tandem skydive.
2. Be a centerfold.
3. Meet and take a photo with Gwen Stefani.
4. Teach my daughter how to drive.
5. Learn how to properly use my camera.
6. Learn to speak French and/or Spanish.
7. Take guitar lessons, again.
8. Walk with the Maidens for Mammograms and Margaritas.
9. Get my Masters Degree in Physical Anthropology.
10. Work as a barista at Starbucks.
11. Write my memoir.
12. Eat a thin crust pizza in Venice, Italy.
13. Visit the Louvre and ride the carousel in Paris, France
14. Adopt a child.
15. Rescue a Vizsla.
16. Attend my 20 year high school class reunion.
17. Spend some time on the East Coast with my husband and daughter.
18. Meet Dave Grohl.
19. Lose 25 lbs.
20. Have my dreams analyzed.
21. Get a real tattoo.
22. Grow a vegetable garden in my backyard.
23. See a NFL game live from the sidelines.
24. Learn more about my family history.
25. Reconnect with my Grandmother.
26. Reconnect with my Mother.
27. Read Joseph Heller’s “Catch-22.”
28. Recreate the white chocolate chunk and raspberry cookie from Marceline’s Confectionary in Downtown Disney.
29. Camp overnight.
30. Spend less than $100 at Target on any given day.
31. Learn more about Buddhism.
32. Make a baby book for my daughter.
33. Make photo books from all of our downloaded photos.
34. Buy a retirement home on Balboa Island.
35. Ride as a passenger on a motorcycle.
36. Learn to sew.
37. Design and decorate a play room/art studio for my daughter at the house.
38. Wear a Wonder Woman costume for Halloween.
39. Meet a Top Chef.
40. Have a meal made by Top Chef All Star Richard Blais.
41. Have dinner at a Master Chef’s restaurant.
42. Make the perfect lemon meringue pie.
43. Get Kelly Corrigan to autograph the two books she’s penned.
44. Meet Ann Murray Paige.
45. Learn proper knife skills.
46. Switch to a plant based diet.
47. Watch the TV series Mad Men and Sons of Anarchy on DVD.
48. Give and receive 100 kisses in a day from my daughter everyday.
49. Walk the sands of Poipu beach with my husband and daughter.
50. Develop better and deeper relationships with my siblings.
51. Go to Graceland.
52. Wear a bikini.
53. Participate in a breast cancer clinical study.
54. Take a creative writing class.
55. Cook and/or bake one recipe from every cookbook I own.
56. Speak in front of a large audience.
57. Help create a child care program at an Orange County hospital for cancer patients undergoing radiation treatment.
58. Develop a website where women can share their personal experiences with women’s cancers.
59. Study Evolution and Creationism and find out if the two ideas can co-exisit.
60. Run a 5K.
61. Watch the following never-seen movies: The Godfather I,II, and III, The Sound of Music, Citizen Kane, and Good Fellas.
62. Become a morning person.
63. Climb a rock wall.
64. Make more friends and successfully manage my friendships.
65. Pick apples from an orchard.
66. Hike to the Hollywood sign.
67. Be married for 50+ years.
68. Be a team mom and/or classroom mom.
69. Hire an assistant.
70. Meet the cast of the original Beverly Hills, 90210. Or just Jennie and Tori.
71. Tour Disneyland after park hours.
72. Witness a birth.
73. Be more spontaneous.
74. Take a cake decorating class.
75. Play craps in Las Vegas.
76. Stay in the penthouse suite of any five-star hotel.
77. Visit all 50 states.
78. Bike down the Haleakala Volcano with my husband.
79. Grow a thicker skin.
80. Go wine tasting in Northern California.
81. Stick to my guns.
82. Attend a Golden Globe Awards after party.
83. Throw an ’80’s party.
84. See Jay-Z perform live.
85. See Prince and Madonna perform live.
86. Teach my daughter to swim.
87. Be a Girl Scout leader.
88. Ride a horse.
89. Visit the memorial site at Ground Zero.
90. Get Botox.
91. Visit MoMA, LACMA, and The Getty.
93. Ride the subway.
94. Visit the Great Wall of China.
95. Read the “China Study.”
96. Read “The Art of Happiness” by the Dalai Lama.
97. Practice Yoga and meditation.
98. Read Michael Pollan’s “Food Rules,” “In Defense of Food,” and “An Omnivore’s Dilemma.”
99. Have Sarah Richardson renovate my master bedroom and bathroom.
100. Have my house saged.
So, where should I start?